Everybody Else

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Social media has gifted humanity with a new way of connecting, but it has also driven us to intense levels of comparison. 

As we scroll, we see what everybody else is doing. And that does something to us. 

This week, become mindful of when you notice a tendency to compare your life to others and use this practice to build compassion. 

Everybody Else

Sometimes we find ourselves saying things like:

  • Everybody else has money.

  • Everybody else has plans this weekend.

  • Everybody else has a job they like.

  • Everybody else has a best friend.

  • Everybody else has fun.

  • Everybody else has a child/grandchild.

  • Everybody else takes great pictures.

  • Everybody else can eat what they want.

  • Everybody else has a purpose.

In these statements, there is a hint of self-pity - I'm the only one who is missing out. Self-pity isolates us and makes us feel more alone.

Self-compassion connects us and reminds us that what we are feeling is part of the human experience and other people feel this way too. If we are going to think about what everybody else is doing, let's do it with a tone of connectedness and sharing this human experience.

Here are some things to remind us that we are all in this life together:

  • Everybody else gets lonely sometimes.

  • Everybody else doubts themselves.

  • Everybody else is afraid.

  • Everybody else is tired.

  • Everybody else wants connection too.

  • Everybody else longs for meaning and purpose.

  • Everybody else knows what it feels like to be left out.

  • Everybody else wonders who they can trust.

  • Everybody else thinks something is wrong with them.

  • Everybody else wants to be seen and heard.

  • Everybody else is doing the best they can.

  • Everybody else wishes for more.

  • Everybody else wants to be loved.

You are never alone. 

Sending you love,