Nothing Left but Love

Lately, I’ve had some clients asking me about or exploring these topics: 

• wondering if someone who is deceased has forgiven them

• feeling guilty for something they said or did in the past to a now deceased loved one 

• regretting not repairing a relationship with someone who has since died

• questioning if they are making a deceased parent proud

None of us knows what exactly happens after we die, but what we do know is that the ego dies when the body dies. 

The ego is part of our human brain and when our body is finished, our ego is finished. 

I personally believe (and this belief continues to evolve every day as I have more life experience, study theology, and work with terminally ill clients) that our soul/energy/lifeforce goes somewhere when we die. Energy is not deleted in our universe - it changes form, but always continues. So our biological bodies die, but our energy continues after it is no longer contained in our physical body. This phenomenon is a consistent discussion point within world religions, science, and metaphysics. 

Continuing this logic, if our ego is part of our brain, then when our body is finished our ego is too. So that means, there aren’t things in the afterlife like blame, anger, disappointment, competition, comparison, judgement, guilt, pride, etc. Those are all experiences created by our ego and only occur when we live in our human bodies. 

Once our body is finished, we return to our essence which is love. Love is the only thing that is eternal. 

Only love remains after our bodies are finished. 

So I imagine that those who have died would want us to know they are now in a state of pure love. They don’t see us through the lens of an ego any longer, they view us through a lens of love. And, I think that they want you to know they aren’t thinking about what happened in their lifetime any longer, that would be an act of the ego. They aren’t thinking about how you should have apologized, that would be an act of ego. They aren’t disappointed in you, there is no disappointment in love. They aren’t regretting anything, that would be the ego. They aren’t holding a grudge, there are no grudges in love. 

They are free of all of that junk we feel here on earth. They are in a state of love in its purest form. 

I’m not sure exactly what Heaven is yet, but I do believe we come from God/Creator and we return to God/Creator when our bodies are finished. Whatever it is that “comes” and “returns” is the part of us that is love. We might each call it by a different name, but it is the part of every human being deep within us and is the truth of who we are. We don’t always remember to notice this part of ourselves, but it is eternal. 

So when you think of your deceased loved ones and wonder what they are thinking…they aren’t. The only thing they are doing is loving. Loving you without conditions. They are free of conditional thinking now. 

What would it feel like to trust that you are forgiven? Or that they aren’t disappointed in you? Or that there are no regrets? Or that they know you love them? Or that there isn’t a scorecard any more? 

What if they are now truly free from their traumas and things that happened to them which made them behave the way they did? 

What if only love exists between you now? 

Imagine them saying to you, “It’s all okay. All of it. I love you. I really really love you.” 

Imagine them saying, “I’m sorry for what I did in my lifetime. I can see it more clearly now that I’m free of my emotional wounds. I’m truly sorry that I couldn’t love you when I was in my body as well I can love you now. I love you in ways beyond your human imagination.” 

How do you feel about opening to receiving this deeper form of love or imagining your loved ones free of the burdens of their earthly lives? Does it shift something inside you?

If you want to talk more about this, I’m offering a free zoom gathering this Saturday morning at 10:00 am CST to explore this. Just respond to this email if you want to join the zoom and I’ll send you a link. It is open to everyone, so feel free to forward this to those you love. We will have a sacred, safe, non-judgmental space to explore this further because it is hard to do it in an email! I love to talk about these topics and many of you have been asking me to talk more about it, so let’s start the conversation. I may not have answers, but I will share what I’ve found in my studies of theology, neuroscience, and being human. And, I want to hear what you think too. We can explore it all together.

What I know for sure is that you are loved.

So much love,